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The Existential Bummer

I came across this video via Dorothy Black on Twitter and it touched me deeply. I’ve always been caught up in the ephemeral nature of people and relationships and moments. How do we immerse ourselves completely in them, knowing that they don’t last forever and eventually everything and everyone will die? Every lovely moment has a hint of sadness.

In the rhythm of freedom

It’s difficult to explain the relationship that a human being experiences with a horse. I don’t understand it myself. I can only try to explain what it feels like.

I found this extract from a recent blog post by Bill Chance, which manages to put some of those feelings into words:

“He found he was breathing in rhythm with the horse as if some part of the horse were within him breathing and then he descended into some deeper collusion for which he had not even a name.” – Cormac McCarthy, All the Pretty Horses

Once you get in sync with a horse, it feels like you are eternally free. Free from the worries of your world, it’s just you and your horse. The sound of your breathing in tune with hers, the smell of fresh sweat from her powerful movement and the sound of hooves on the ground, in time with the rhythm of your mind. Patience, obedience, freedom, connection. That’s what it is. The most special relationship I have ever had with a living being. I treasure every moment that I have with my horse.

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Hate to Love – The Valentine’s Day Saga

I’m not one that’s into Valentine’s day, or much romance at all, but this year I rolled on into Valentine’s Day with a ball of misery.

I faceplanted into Monday after a weekend from which you never want to leave. I then severely botched a meeting that would have been an amazing opportunity for me and which I really need right now. I then got hit in the face with no, not just Tuesday, but Valentine’s Day.

This silly and ridiculous day always brings something to stress about – whether in a relationship or not. What am I going to buy him, will he like it, what are we going to do, what can I afford, am I really happy with him, spending V-Day alone, should I go to a V-Day party, is there such a thing as love...the list is endless. It’s a day of unnecessary stress and self flagellation.

I’m sure that there are couples out there who enjoy this day, getting all loved up and spoilt, but more often than not it’s a dark day of reflection. I stayed away from social media yesterday – it’s just too ridiculous for me to comprehend: “I love you so much my baby, my everything”…tell them, not Facebook!

No, I’m not a bitter singleton, I’m a happy one. But I do believe that the people that gain the most from this silly little day is the retailers.

Nonetheless, I had a lovely evening with my closests (wine, cheese, chocolates and amazing company) and it was definitely the best V-Day I’ve ever had.

Show the people you love every day that you love them – you don’t need a pre-allocated and overpriced day to do it.