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3 Reasons why you shouldn’t date your Twitter crush


If you’re fairly active in the social media world, you’re likely enjoying Twitter and the inter-connectedness it offers. You’re meeting new people online and offline and sapping up all the networking that comes with it.

You’ve also likely got a Twitter crush who’s admired for his online status. Here’s why you shouldn’t date him.

1. He’s not what his bio says he his
He makes himself out to be just amazing. Desirable. He’s taken qualities that everyone loves and mashed them together into ‘I’m Mr. Awesome’. He’s likely just a dork in real life, compensating for the attention he missed out on in his pre-digital years.

2. If he’s big on Twitter, he’s only big on Twitter
These guys tend to take their online status VERY seriously. To the point that they actually don’t have all that much real going on offline. Offline, they talk about what’s going on online, ALL the time. They validate their worth by their online following.

3. If he chased you on Twitter, he’s probably chasing someone else there too
Twitter is not a dating site. Guys that use it as one like to break the rules and get a thrill from the chase. Once you’re there in real life, the game is over and it’s time for a new one.

Although social media is an exciting and extremely useful environment to be in, it also provides an easy opportunity for exaggeration and embellishment of the facts. Everyone wants to be noticed, and some are just clever enough to market themselves well so that you to believe what you read.

Don’t fall for the guy on Twitter, fall for the one in real life.

(Granted, neither has worked for me very well, but it sounds like good advice, right?)


Help you help yourself – an entrepreneurial lesson

Once upon a time I blogged about how awesome it is to be an entrepreneur and also the challenges I face on a daily basis. I promised to share some of these with you, but I have failed taken my time to get to it (it is a swear word in the entrepreneurial world to use the “f” word – you don’t fail, you just change direction).

Well, dear readers, here is the deal right now. This is me:


I know it is hard to tell, but if you look closely you will see it. I did this to myself.

I am an accountant, bookkeeper, secretary, copywriter, web designer, graphic designer, social media strategist, social media community manager, web developer, marketing strategist, business owner, freelancer, advertiser, media agency, relationship manager, account manager, business analyst, salesman, missing aunt and birthday-forgetting friend.

A friend asked me recently what the most difficult part of being an entrepreneur is and this is my answer: ‘Coming to terms with the fact that you can’t do everything yourself’. When it is your own business and your passion, it is so difficult to hand over responsibility of any part of it to someone else. You don’t think that they can care about it as much as you do. You don’t trust other people with your “child”.

So here’s the first lesson at entrepreneur school: “You can’t do everything yourself”. Find trusted partners and suppliers and build those relationships. That way, you can feel comfortable to hand over what others are capable of doing for you. It seems expensive at first, and when you’re starting out you really don’t have the money to outsource anything. The key is to understand what you can outsource, exactly what it costs, trust your supplier and build it into your costs to your client.

I’m by no means there yet, but at least I’ve learnt this lesson and am taking steps to get there.

*Cue: Someone buy me a freaking drink.

You know you’ve made it when…

I came across this competition yesterday from Oudemeester:

[Cool idea for a campaign. The winners get a bottle of Demant, Crystal glasses and a diamond. Pretty sauve. See their Facebook page or Twitter for more details.]

Diamonds aside, this got me thinking.

How do you know when you’ve made it? 

I posed the question on my Facebook page and expected my numbnut friends to come up with some ridonculous ideas of wealth and success. I remember once paging through a lifestyle magazine (yes, once upon a time there were things called magazines and they were printed on paper), and saw a house with a beautiful wild forest garden. In this fairy garden paradise was an open air kitchen and dining area. I cut out the picture and stuck it on my fridge and told myself that you know you’ve made it when you have an outdoor kitchen in your forest fairy garden.

Although that would be bloody marvelous and I wouldn’t say no to having one if I had the means, in all honesty there are much deeper and more satisfactory signs that you’ve made it in life.

Here are some of my Facebook friends answers to my status “You know you’ve made it when…”

  • you don’t need to brag about your ‘achievements’ on Facebook anymore
  • you have a penis butler
  • ‎……. you’re happy
  • you can look back and actually be proud of what you have achieved and how far you have come…
  • you get back to the stable and your T-shirt isn’t full of dirt at the back (from falling off a horse)!
  • …you no longer need Facebook to complete your sentences.
  • all the things you dream of come true… It is an ongoing thing for me, not just a single moment
  • people don’t judge you for doing arb things like eating a bacon, asparagus and mayonaise salad. They think you’re starting a trend.

Okay, so besides the penis butler comment (not sure what that is all about?) it looks like I have some pretty sensible Facebook friends. Nobody mentioned a forest fairy garden kitchen, though. I must be wrong.

So, Oudemeester, although I haven’t entered your competition as I don’t have a bottle of Demant in my hand, here is my answer to your question:


How do you know when you’ve made it?


  • When the things most important to you in your life have never been bought
  • When the greatest joy in your life is seeing pure joy in the face of someone else and knowing that you helped make that happen
  • When you look into the face of fear and say “Yippeee!”. No matter how bad the situation, you know that there is always a way.
  • When you find happiness in every day

How do you know when you’ve made it?

Love what you do


Things will always end up the way that they should be

This quote may as well have been written by me:

A Healthy Life

I saw this on Pinterest just now and thought I’d share it with you peeps:

10 Things to kiss goodbye today…

1. Negative people
You know those legacy friends that just can’t stop complaining? Life is really not so bad, let these people go, negativity breeds negativity.

2. Clutter
A cluttered space results in a cluttered mind. Keep your desk clear, it will help you think.

3. The guilt you feel when you eat something delectable
For goodness sake, what is life if you can’t enjoy those guilty pleasures? Ditch the guilt!

4. Credit card debt
Easy to say…stop swiping! A clear credit card account helps clear your mind to focus on more exciting things.

5. Old hurtful memories
You don’t need these. Remember the lessons learned from these and start making new memories.

6. Clothes that have become too tight
You’re not going to fit into those jeans you wore in high school. Buy new sassy ones that fit your body as it is now.

7. Those shoes that hurt you
Blisters are just not worth it. Wear those shoes you can dance the night away in.

8. Hard towels
Bamboo cotton towels will change your life.

9. Meat
Boost your health and do your bit for the earth at the same time. If the amount of hormones and toxins in meat alone doesn’t scare you enough, here are 101 reasons to go veg

10. Doubting your own ability to succeed
I think that we all have some insane skills that we don’t really tap into. Here’s to using some of that!

Now to take my own advice…